Below are the 50 most recent posts.
How Long Will I Love You?
Ellie Goulding’s song “How Long Will I Love You?” embodies a poignant reflection on the timeless nature of love and the enduring commitment to cherish and nurture it. The delicate and heartfelt lyrics coupled with Goulding’s emotive delivery create an atmosphere of deep emotional resonance. The song’s ethereal melody and tender vocals intertwine to evoke…
Narcissistic Behaviour Patterns, aka – NBPs
Narcissism… it’s become a commonly used term to characterize a person’s negative behaviours, almost as a diagnosis of NPD (Narcistic Personality Disorder). NPD is a medical diagnosis, and is quite rare because of its very nature… people who fit the medical diagnosis of it wear a mask of extreme confidence, are secretly and deeply insecure…
Self-Respect
I like me. I hope you do too. It’d be kinda sad if you don’t, but I’ll still like me all the same. In this post, I’d like to talk about self-respect, and I’d like to use my life as a kind of case study. I’ve lived almost my entire life, save for maybe the…
Story, Aliveness, and Eroticism
Eroticism It’s life giving aliveness back to itself It’s poetry and story we bring to sex It’s the inner world of life’s experience It’s life reminding itself that eroticism is the core foundational experience of life itself Resisting eroticism can only give resistance of aliveness Resisting aliveness can only give a loss of self respect…
Understanding God
What do you think… has God ever made a mistake? Messed up when creating stuff… maybe a planet or a flower or a sun or duck or something else? I didn’t think so either. For most of my life, I was convinced that I knew who God is. My parents, the church, the people in my…
Being Seen
Being ‘seen’ isn’t just a social and personal longing we all share, it’s one of the most potent human longings. Because of that, truly ‘seeing’ others is the most amazing gift we can each other. It’s effect is increased self-awareness, self-acceptance, self-worth, and self-confidence. It’s a powerful cure for the crisis of connection we’re caught…
How Many Do I Have Left?
People… we struggle to find what gives us purpose, and to put our thoughts emotions and efforts into the important life affirming stuff in our own individual lives. We struggle because culture, yours included, is very very noisy and bossy about what each of us should and shouldn’t be giving a fuck about. As a…
Complete. Healthy. Happy. Human.
Let me start with an obvious fact. You were born. And like the round shape of the planet Earth, that’s a true fact, and now you’re living your life somewhere on this big ball we call home. Now tell me… have you ever asked yourself why your life is even possible? The answer, of course,…
Guts and Sex
Your unvarnished, authentic self is that part of you that only you truly know. It’s the secret self we all have, and we’re loath (aka scared shitless) to let just anyone see it. Instead, we show each other cinematic versions of ourselves, kinda like movie characters, ones we hope will pass as ourselves. One carefully…
It’s Your Choice to Make
Science has proven that the human female is built for orgasm, and that her orgasm is not about making babies. Male orgasm is. Female orgasm is about a lot… it’s psychological, emotional, physiological, spiritual, relating with herself and with others, self discovery, self development, self determination, self acceptance, receiving, personal expansion and growth, and much…
Tell Them You Care
Everyone you care about loves to hear about your affection for them. And telling them has some really awesome effects… on both of you. Expressions of affection (giving and receiving) is directly related to positive effects on mental health, relationship resilience, sexuality, overall contentedness, self acceptance, interconnectedness, and it’s essential in maintaining and strengthening our…
I Don’t Want To See That
Have you ever tried one of those virtual reality headsets? They’re such a technical marvel! When you put one on, the real world fades away and the VR world takes its place. I bought one a little while ago and let me tell you, it’s soooooo much fun! I’ve been to the virtual Grand Canyon,…
Action Today
Today might be the best chance you have to take action to nudge (or shove) yourself toward your right life, the life your soul knows is yours to live. The longer you wait, the more deeply you get stuck in the status quo, and fear digs in even deeper, eating away at your ability to…
Loneliness Hurts
We all have times in our lives when we feel the need to spend time alone, me included. The more introverted you are, the more you get recharged this way. I think I’m at least partly introverted… my imagination and fingers start a party and my writing gets better (well, more verbose at least) when…
Nature’s Surprising Little Trick
Recently, a woman I know experienced a medical event serious enough to have paramedics called, who then took her to hospital. Like many, if not most of us, I’ve seen this kind of thing before, but this time I had a reaction that really surprised me. Of course, my first reaction was a natural concern…
Love That Sustains
Love, true love, the love that sustains us takes no joy, no satisfaction, no pleasure in your pain or your suffering. True love rejoices at your every triumph, forgets your foibles, defends your very freedom, makes a home in its heart for you and keeps a candle burning in the window. That love wants nothing…
The Power of 10… Why
Alison A. Armstrong writes and lectures about masculine feminine relationships. One aspect she talks about is how dating a 10, a 9, an 8, or even a 7 on your personal “hotness” scale causes you painful emotional damage, and can even open the door to physical harm too. Continuing from my last post about that…
The Power of 10
Our culture has mixed attitudes and behavious around rating people on the “hotness” scale of 1 to 10. Most people I know don’t like it, and rightfully so. Rating someone like that reduces him or her to a meat sack, and ignores the many many other facets of beauty that makes being with them a…
Being You… All Of You
If you want to make the world a better place in any way, you have to start by becoming whole yourself. ~Martha Beck During the 1999 Mount Holyoke Commence Speech, author and journalist Anna Quindlen said: “…nothing important, or meaningful, or beautiful, or interesting, or great ever came out of imitations. The thing that is…
Living Room Sessions
A Living Room Session is where people interested in the topic of the session get together in our living room to explore the topic, share experiences and information related to it, and to practice showing up as their most unvarnished selves. Topics are related to things like sex, or self-acceptance, or relationships, or human potential,…
Living Room Sessions 