Because I’m a geek. A sex geek. And I’m oh so very happy about it too! I love learning about sex. I love talking about sex. I love researching sex. I love helping people come to happy terms with their sexual selves. Most of all, I love turning people’s sex lives right the fuck on.
A Living Room Session is where people interested in the topic of the session get together in our living room to explore the topic, share experiences and information related to it, and to practice showing up as their most unvarnished selves. Topics are related to things like sex, or self acceptance, or relationships, or human potential, or whatever people want to talk about.
As a sex geek, I’m a bit of a late bloomer. You see, as a young man, I never really thought about sex as a skills based activity, beyond figuring out how to make women orgasm as fast a possible so I could get on with having one of my own. Sex was very formulaic for me: get naked with her, kiss and caress her, kiss caress and fondle her breasts, kiss and carress her body for a minute or two, lick her clit until she comes, slide my cock into her pussy, thrust and thrust until I come, usually rather fast and in the missionary position or doggy style, then roll over all spent and sleepy, and sometimes actually fall asleep. The sex was uninspiring, masculine, and got my rocks off, but left me feeling increasingly empty and flat. After years of this, I found myself wondering… is this all there is in sex for me?
Eventually, I started meeting people who are sex positive, or liked kink, or liked sex with multiple partners, or got off on spanking each other, or loved sex toys, or being watched, or making videos of themselves having sex, or liked sex in the back yard, or in public… and as many other kinds of sex as you can imagine. Pretty exciting stuff!
It didn’t take long for me to learn there’s a vast universe of sex I was only vaguely aware of. And so I began exploring that universe.
In the beginning, I felt a sense of shame, embarrasment, confusion, and anxiety about sex and what I found myself interested in. But, the more I learned, the less I felt those emotions. I learned that kink isn’t violence when it’s two or more consenting, respecting, and caring adults involved. I learned that women and men are not versions of each other. I learned something of women’s experiences of being a woman, and the impact it’s had. I learned about women’s sexual anatomy. I began to find things I wanted more of, things I wanted to try, and things my partners were into that I’d never thought of or tried before and that turned out to be a lot of fun. I found that some things people are into aren’t my cuppa tea, some that very much are, and lots somewhere in between. I learned that people are into a surprising variety of their own sexual things, and I was a little surprised to find that I was feeling very unfazed about it all. No shame. No judgment. Through it all, I discovered that nothing I learned about people’s sexual preferrences felt wrong. As a result, my sex life became much richer and rewarding by being open-minded, non-judgemental and willing to explore.
I learned that I could talk about sex in very graphic and detailed ways without batting an eye. I discovered that I love talking to people about the details of their sex lives, and sharing what I now know. And I saw that learning about sex in such open and non-judgemental ways like that helps people find and appreciate their own sexual selves, and to uncover and put aside their sex negative conditioning.
Then the lights turned on, and I started holding Living Room Sessions.
I talk to people about sex, love, and relationships. Adult people… the 20 somethings to the 80 somethings. I go for very explicit talks. I challenge misinformation and cultural/social conditioning. I love peeling the layers back in people’s judgments and fears, and examining their unexamined selves with them. I open people’s minds to a broadening of their sexual selves. I love helping people get really comfortable with their sexual interests, how they play, and with exploring their sexual desires.
My hope is that, through sharing what I know, I can help people spend their lives in acceptance of their sexual selves, develop new skills and understanding, and enjoying it all, no matter what it looks like.
I look forward to seeing you at one of my Living Room Sessions.
P.S. Got a topic you’re interested in? Let’s talk about it
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